Vetting is a long-standing practice within many areas of society, including the BDSM community.
Miriam-Webster defines it as investigating (someone) thoroughly to see if they should be approved or accepted.
Some may view this as an elitist practice. We view it as being responsible.
For the benefit of all, everyone who is interested in attending an event at NHOT must first be vetted. This has been our policy from day one and we apply it unilaterally. Everyone must go through the same process. No exceptions.
NHOT is a private organization with events that occur in a private residence. While we are happy to be opening our home for the fun and educational benefit of others interested in exploring power exchange, it is only prudent that we do so judiciously.
How We Vet
Anyone who wishes to attend an event at NHOT must first be known to us. When someone is not known to us, vetting begins by meeting in a public setting –like a munch, a NEDS class or some other public venue– and being introduced to us. However, a quick hello and a handshake are not sufficient.
Because our objective is to maintain a safe, pleasant and positive environment, a simple introduction does not constitute vetting. We want to get acquainted with people; have some meaningful conversation to determine if our objectives are in alignment. The NHOT mission has a rather narrow focus. We are not trying to be all things to all people. As such, it is our responsibility to take the time to get to know people well enough to determine if there is a good fit between what each individual is seeking and what we offer.
This process is very subjective; we know that and we don’t apologize for it.